Birth Control Sabotage: Yet Another Way Sexual Agency is Under Attack
I cannot believe this. Birth control sabotage (and according to a commenter, “contraceptive interference” is its real name) is just another form of men attempting to control women’s bodies (as noted in the article, men can be victims of this sabotage, too, but this example is of a woman), and this article details a particularly egregious example.
The idea that the man in question thought it was totally normal to remove her Nuva Ring and his condom without asking or informing her during sex is mind-boggling. And his response when called on it? “That’s what I had always done.” He sounds legitimately clueless as to how big of a violation this is. Who told him that was acceptable? Where did he get the idea that not only is birth control optional, even when clearly the woman has asked for it and wants it, but that he doesn’t even have to respect her enough to tell her or ask her? Also, what else would the Nuva Ring be for, other than to wear and use during sex? There’s a facebook group about “standing up to idiots” that you can join to express your support for her in her crusade to talk about this issue. It’s also a little distressing that there’s nothing to protect a woman from this kind of sabotage, except possibly if she became pregnant from it.
Yet another example of how women’s sexual agency and volition are still under frequent attack. The one good thing from this is the reaction she’s gotten from other men that are just as outraged as her. She takes that as a good sign for change, and I am inclined to agree.
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