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You Cannot love a Vagina, unless you love…

March 13, 2010


This is an excerpt from the Vagina Monologues. Eve prefaced this monologue with the fact that though this particular monologue is based on one woman’s experience, the topic of hair came up in nearly every conversation she had.

And watching this week’s episode of Grey’s Anatomy, I felt as if I was watching Mirand Bailey (played by incredible actress  Chandra Wilson) perform the part.

A little background before viewing: Miranda Bailey has just started dating again after going through a pretty rough divorce. She is nervous about a date she is going on tonight, in which Callie suggests that the man is probably expecting the customary third date sex (he’s making dinner) and that Miranda should remember “to prep her surgical field.” In an attempt to be helpful, Callie gives Miranda the info of a Brazilian (Ukranian?) waxer she knows and trusts.

This is Miranda’s response after returning from the waxer. It is the only youtube clip I can find, and Miranda’s monologue starts at about 2:30.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. Ashley permalink
    March 13, 2010 3:17 PM

    I don’t have cable but I just happened to be with a friend and they were watching this episode of Grey’s Anatomy (I’ve never seen the show before); I was very vocal during her speech and very happy to see a character on a show that many, many people being assertive about the fact that her ‘surgical field’ is her own and if someone can’t handle hair there then they can fuck off.

  2. adam permalink
    March 14, 2010 5:27 AM

    hey, i clicked the link, but it said the video clip was removed! anyway, i was thinking… shaving/waxing definitely seems like more of an issue in america for women. face, legs, southern regions… i feel like guys aren’t generally encouraged to shave much aside from their faces, but that’s up to them too, in the end. and so what if a guy doesn’t shave his face– at worst, he’s scruffy.

    on the other hand, i think it’s like an unspoken rule in our society that women have to shave their legs. i can’t personally deny that i find hairy legs on a woman unattractive in an almost instinctual way. maybe this is close minded, but i think most of male america would agree with me.

    how did it end up that women are required to do some kinds of shaving, while men get to choose? are we more willing to push women to shave their vaginas because they are already pushed to shave their legs?

    now i’m having an identity crisis. i personally don’t mind some hair “down there,” but i don’t like hairy legs! how can i have separate standards for different body parts?!

    …is this more evidence of a willingness to divide up the female body more and leave the male body as a whole?

  3. March 15, 2010 12:13 PM


    Maybe you’ll join me in trying to get #baldvulvas going on Twitter? I just want people to at least THINK about this horrible (for me) trend.

    Thanks. I’m tweeting this blog post right now….

    One of my several posts about #baldvulvas :

  4. March 15, 2010 12:13 PM

    PS Not so much the vagina as the vulva… but to get to the vagina, you gotta love hair, too… 😉

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