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C’mon get Happy: men, virginity.

February 17, 2010

Every week the happy bodies team gets together to plan our on-campus activism. We also advertise for our weekly discussion group by cutting out ads and commenting on them – it’s both cathartic and illuminating. Here are some of our favorite ads from this week. You’ll notice that we have been trying to make an effort to have ads targeting male bodies. Although it has required Norma to pour through a Maxim and a lot of groaning about the depiction of women in it, we now have some ads to put up in men’s bathrooms and make sure that people know all bodies are welcome!

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Our discussion topic for this week is Virginity How do you define virginity? Is it purely physical or mental or both? Do you see virginity as a goal? a label? a process? How do you think relationships (or perceived relationships) towards virginity varies based on gender or sexual orientation? I’m really excited for this week, there is so much to talk about! Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments, or just join us on Friday!

To see more, check out: C’mon get happy 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8

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4 Comments leave one →
  1. February 21, 2010 1:55 AM

    How do you define virginity?
    I myself define it as sex with another person.

    Is it purely physical or mental or both?
    Simply because one is free (or at least should be free) to fantasize as they see fit I tend to think of virginity as only physical.

    Do you see virginity as a goal? a label? a process? How do you think relationships (or perceived relationships) towards virginity varies based on gender or sexual orientation?
    I think the those first three depend on one’s gender. Typically female virginity is something that is to be protected until marriage (so I suppose that would be a goal) whereas typically male virginity is something is to be discarded as soon as possible (so I suppose that would be a process which ends with the loss of virginity). In terms of measuring ones adulthood women are expected and pressured to maintain their virginity to confirm their womanhood and men are expected and pressured to lose their virginity to confirm their manhood. Personally I do subscribe to either of those.

    Bear in mind what I just said above is based in heterosexuality. When going into other orientations it things change.

  2. Becky permalink
    February 21, 2010 2:39 AM

    Could you explicate more what you mean by “sex with another person”? In a heteronormative world, we normally mean penile-vaginal intercourse between a cis man and a cis woman.

    I think it’s really interesting to think about how those norms you spoke about in your final answer might change if we expanded our definition. If “sex” could be defined however we want it to, and we could have it with any person we like. How then, might we be able to change our notions of manhood and womanhood to be more inclusive?

    Sorry if those comments seem a little abstract, I’m working on a post about it.

    • February 21, 2010 9:13 AM

      When speaking about “sex with another person” my focus is more on simply being with another person rather than the heteronormative explanation you give. The orientation, cisgender/transgender, etc of the people in question aren’t a part of the equation when I talk about that. As long as there is more than one person.

      As for expanding our notions of womanhood and manhood the crucial step is to get it out of people’s head the idea that one’s manhood/womanhood is dependent on their sexual activity (or lack thereof).

  3. PatriarchySlayer permalink
    February 22, 2010 2:33 AM

    I think it’s awesome the kind of activism that you are doing in your school. I wish there was a place (outside of my sexology class) where I could have discussed those topics. Keep up the good work!

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